They are forcing us to an abortion

Bojan Krsnik

Bojan Krsnik

social work graduate

Greetings. I am 18 years old and my 15-year-old girlfriend has become pregnant. I am still finishing school right now and looking for a job, but I will have achieved all of that before she gives birth. She is currently in the 7th week of her pregnancy and is not visiting her parents. There are constant quarrels, her mother wants an abortion at all costs, and we do not want one. We want that child, and we cannot explain to her what we want because she does not want to listen. I wonder what our rights are and whether someone else can make the decision on abortion instead of my girlfriend. I am interested in whether the Social Welfare Centre can report me. Please advise what to do next, which steps to take. Girlfriend’s mother wants to put her into a juvenile correctional facility and does not want to take any responsibility and tells her and me that we are irresponsible and incapable of raising a child. I am interested in our rights. Thank you in advance.

Your girlfriend is in the care of her parents until she is 18 or until she gains legal capacity through marriage. This means that if she moves in with you without the permission of her parents, who are legally obliged to take care of her, she is actually causing problems for herself, and at the same time, you run the risk of her parents reporting you to the authorities. What you can do is go to the competent Social Welfare Centre together, explain the situation you are in, especially if the girl is threatened to have an abortion, and then the Centre will find temporary accommodation for your girlfriend. Unfortunately, even though you are of legal age, you cannot take care of yourself, her and a child who requires financial expenses, so it is best to support your girlfriend in going to the Social Care Centre. You do not have to be afraid of the Centre because it serves to help people at risk and need and it is especially important to involve the Centre in further decisions in order to avoid violation of applicable legal norms and thus make the entire situation even more complicated and difficult.