How to cope with two small children

Silvija Stanić

Silvija Stanić


I need your advice because I am in a difficult phase. I have two children, a 2.5-year-old daughter and a 3-month-old son. I was 17 when I gave birth to a son and even though I was younger; it was easier for me then than it is now. I am alone with them all day, my husband works two shifts and sometimes he is not at home all day. I am quite attached to my son because I breastfeed him and he sometimes hangs on me for two hours, and if I put him down, he cries. My biggest problem is bathing. While I bathe or change him, I do not know what my daughter is doing if she is in another room and I am afraid she will get hurt. Sometimes I feel like I am just running after her, yelling. If I play a cartoon to her while I am breastfeeding or changing my son’s clothes, it can take a long time and I would not want her to watch television all day. Sometimes it is hard for me and I don’t have the will to do anything. How can I take care of them when they all have their needs, but there is only one of me, and I cannot do five tasks at once?

You face the challenges of parenting that are never easy, regardless of your age. You yourself notice that it was easier for you before, to take care of only one child.

Caring for two small children on the other hand can be really exhausting.

I think it would be good to plan for those situations that are proving difficult. If you know that you have to bathe or change your son, at the same time (and in the same room) the daughter can “bathe” her doll or help you by passing you the things you need. Sometimes even everyday difficult situations can turn into opportunities for playing and socializing. On the other hand, it seems to me that it would be good to include a husband when he is at home and not working. Maybe he could watch your son while you and your daughter have time for yourselves, or to allow you to have “5 minutes” for yourself, i.e. a time in which you do something for yourself, whether you are resting or are engaged in some activity that you enjoy.

Parents of young children often do not have time for themselves, and sometimes a little time in which you dedicate yourself to your interests will be enough to make you feel better.